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What’s My Child Thinking? by Tanith Carey and Dr Angharad Rudkin

Today I have something a little different for you compared to my usual reviews. I would like to thank Anne Carter at Random Things Blog Tours and Tanith for providing me a copy of this wonderful book.


What’s My Child Thinking?, is parenting bible for a modern generation – by author, journalist and parenting expert Tanith Carey and Clinical Psychologist Dr Angharad Rudkin.

For this unique new book, Tanith and Angharad have pulled together the most important aspects of research and advances made in child development, which up to now, hasn’t been available to parents. 

What’s My Child Thinking?

Designed for time-pressed parents, it allows mums, dads and carers to quickly and accurately interpret their child’s behaviour in the moment in more than 100 different challenging situations – and give the best science-based solutions, without having to wade through text and opinions

From tantrums, friendships (real and imaginary), sibling rivalry and having a new baby to sleep problems, aggressive behaviour and peer pressure, parents can quickly find a situation and understand exactly what their child is thinking, and the best way to respond. The scenarios are a mixture of different requests, demands or questions a child may have, such as a 2 year old refusing to wear a coat, and only wanting mummy or a five year old still wanting their dummy or having a bad dream.  

There are also practical survival guides dotted throughout which offer more detailed information and key principles to follow when dealing with more complex issues. These include shyness, coping with birthday parties, hitting and biting, travelling in a car and eating out. Complicated situations like separation and divorce are also included. 

The book highlights the importance of working together as a team if you have a co-parent, and how it can helpful to seek advice from others if you are raising your child alone. There is guidance on how to decide what matters to you most in terms of values, along with reminders about why children react in the way they do, especially when they don’t yet have the words to explain. Feeling pressured to be the ‘perfect’ parent is also addressed. 

What’s My Child Thinking? is the first parenting book that simultaneously brings together the thinking of both the parent and the child. It clearly explains how to decode a child’s behaviour, understand the psychology behind it and confidently find the best solution to resolve it. It shows that by tuning into your child’s innermost thoughts you can get a calmer, happier family life. 


What’s My Child Thinking has proved to be an amazing resource. I have a 6 year old daughter and I have found myself going to use this book on a number of occasions. I love the way that it breaks down questions and protentional areas of conflict with both the child and parent thinking aspects.

This has allowed me to stop and look at my reactions to things that happen and to explore a more complexed approach as to why my child asks or behaves in certain manners. I can safely say that it has reduced the amount of bickering that can sometimes happen and made me more mindful as a parent to understand more of how my child is thinking with practical easy solutions.

The layout of the pages make for great readability and don’t just bombard you with walls of text. This is a book I would highly recommend for any parent.

About the Authors

Tanith Carey is an award-winning UK journalist and author who writes on the most pressing challenges facing today’s parents. Her eight previous books have been translated into 15 languages, including German, French, Arabic,Chinese, Korean and Turkish. Having spent time working in the US as an editor and writer before returning to the UK, Tanith has insight on both sides of the Atlantic and her writing has featured in a wide range of publications, including the Daily Telegraph, The Times, The Guardian, and New York Daily News. Tanith also appears on TV and radio programmes, such as NBC Today in the US, Radio 4’s Woman’s Hour and You and Yours, ITV’s This Morning, the Lorraine show, and Good Morning Britain. Tanith has two daughters (16 and 13).

About Dr Angharad Rudkin

Dr Angharad Rudkin is a Clinical Psychologist and Associate Fellow of the British Psychological Society. She has worked with children, adolescents, and families for over 15 years. Angharad has an independent therapy practice and teaches Clinical Child Psychology at the University of Southampton. She regularly contributes to articles on child and family wellbeing for national newspaper and magazines, and is a relationship expert for London’s Metro daily newspaper. Angharad appears on TV and radio regularly as an expert on child and family issues.

Thanks for reading

Emma-Louise Smith xx

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